[OldCdog]

Most people who post here really
do not mean to be mean and hurt
anyones feelings. Expressions of
opinions sometimes quite inadvertently
do that, but such is life. Life is far too
short to read too much into feedback
from others. Many great points have
been made in this thread about this
perplexing situation.

[trpkap]

I would be very upset if I were in VaMaiden's situation. Renting to riff-raff and troublemakers is a black mark on the surrounding neighborhood. I certainly wouldn't want to buy a house there if I was aware of that problem. I hope they can come up with a solution acceptable to all concerned.

[Jane Doe]

Most people who post here really
do not mean to be mean and hurt
anyones feelings. Expressions of
opinions sometimes quite inadvertently
do that, but such is life. Life is far too
short to read too much into feedback
from others. Many great points have
been made in this thread about this
perplexing situation.

You are sooooo right! As always. < sweet smile>

[Klaymank]

I do not appreciate being called 'nosy', and 'undesirable' by the members here, as I have been called upon multiple times to help resolve problems this man has with his tenants, or to wait with him while the police or EMTS arrive, and even to come drive him home from the ER after he gets shoved and hurt by his tenants. I doubt if any of you would like the situation any better than we do, if you lived next door to this man. Who, by the way, has three sons, none of which have spoken with him in years because of his abuse of them. With that, I can only say, "Judge not, less ye be judged", and I am resigning from Flagler Chat, so you people can hurt someone else. I was honestly asking for help with a serious problem which has ruined our peace and safety.

So the neighbor is no better than his renters?

[MACKIE]

Wow this really stinks. Not much you can do, he doesn't even have to register the house as a rental because he lives there. Sounds like a no win situation. I don't have neighbors on either side of me, just woods. I like it that way!!

[Alndaytona]

I know that I would NOT appreciate living next to that type of setting.
A "roommate" or "sharing a house" situation is one thing, but this definately seems to be another.

[bluebandit]

How many renters in the house. There might be occupancy rules. BB

[Starfyre]

VA Maiden, sounds like your neighbor wants to rent to have "company" and make some cash. He sounds like he likes the drama and attention. My suggestion would be to get all the other neighbors together, and meet and come up with a plan to "help" this gentleman get some good "tenants".

Maybe there would be more affect on this gentleman if you go in numbers. Maybe he needs to be told that you all collectively are not happy watching him be hurt or taken advantage of., and you all care and want to help. Overwhelm him with kindness, and see if that changes his out look on the situation.

[Va Maiden]

My husband and I are the only neighbors who speak to this man, because of his tenants, but also because he has a very nasty disposition. He rails about what a great Christian he is, but has never, in the 16 years we have known him, done anything but antagonize people, be abusive and critical of his wife when she was living, and his sons, always, by their words. They want no part of dealing with him. We have helped him with many problems, try to help him with lawn care, and I have been his "personal nurse" the whole time. We have bent over backwards to try to get him to see the risk he puts himself and others in, by not knowing anything about these people he takes in. Most have turned out to be step-down from group homes, people just released from jail, recovering alcoholics, etc. He himself is an alcoholic, has always refused help, and he rents to get beer money,(since his sons quit helping him after he had to go to ER twice from injuries due to drunkeness, and will not even be cordial to them). So we are stuck with him, his tenants, etc. BTW, I met the young man he rented to, and he heard the owner griping about our asking questions. He came over, said he fully understood our reasons, and gave us a full background. He has a serious physical disability, is on Soc. Sec., and has been a friend of several people we know from local church functions and/or neighborhood watch.Enough said; Thank all of you who understood our situation. I hope the rest the very best with their attitudes.

[HSAb]

I don't want to sound mean but you guys may really be enabling him to stay disfunctional by "bending over backwards and being hi personal nurse. This does not sound very safe for a family. I pray nothing happens to you guys while you are HELPING him. Be careful, the man is not playing with a full deck and it sounds like everyone knows it. He has to want to help himself and he is CHOOSING these people. If he is refusing help, and as you say has been 16 years, you should step away and take care of your own family. JUST MHO..........too many crazy things going on these days, don't want to put yourself in harms way.

[Lois]

My husband and I are the only neighbors who speak to this man, because of his tenants, but also because he has a very nasty disposition. He rails about what a great Christian he is, but has never, in the 16 years we have known him, done anything but antagonize people, be abusive and critical of his wife when she was living, and his sons, always, by their words. They want no part of dealing with him. We have helped him with many problems, try to help him with lawn care, and I have been his "personal nurse" the whole time. We have bent over backwards to try to get him to see the risk he puts himself and others in, by not knowing anything about these people he takes in. Most have turned out to be step-down from group homes, people just released from jail, recovering alcoholics, etc. He himself is an alcoholic, has always refused help, and he rents to get beer money,(since his sons quit helping him after he had to go to ER twice from injuries due to drunkeness, and will not even be cordial to them). So we are stuck with him, his tenants, etc. BTW, I met the young man he rented to, and he heard the owner griping about our asking questions. He came over, said he fully understood our reasons, and gave us a full background. He has a serious physical disability, is on Soc. Sec., and has been a friend of several people we know from local church functions and/or neighborhood watch.Enough said; Thank all of you who understood our situation. I hope the rest the very best with their attitudes.

I wish you luck with the new tenant he rented too. Maybe things will get better.